It can be a really worrying and scary time for a child when their friend is diagnosed with a brain tumour. They may not know what a brain tumour is, or what it means for their friend. They probably have lots questions, but some may go quiet and be too scared to ask, while others may endlessly ask questions. They may want to know how they can help.
We’ve gathered together some tips to help you support the child’s classmates.
It’s really important that you:
- Remind their peers, that regardless of the diagnosis and absence from school, the child affected is still their friend and part of the class.
- Give facts about brain tumours to help the peers understand the situation. This is a good opportunity to dispel any potential misunderstandings or misconceptions. This should be alongside a discussion with the child and parents about what they want shared.
- Make sure the information you share with peers is open, honest, yet age-appropriate. There are a number of resources, such as stories, that may help with this.
- Give the peers plenty of chances to ask questions. Reassure them that there’s no such thing as a silly question.
- Offer chances, away from others in the class, to talk to you, someone appropriately qualified or someone with knowledge of the situation (e.g. school nurse, counsellor, SENCO). Here they may feel more comfortable to ask questions and can explore their feelings.
- Consider what information will be shared with the parents of the classmates. Questions are likely to come home, so you need to make sure parents feel equipped enough to deal with them. It might be that a letter is sent home to parents, if the parents or the child affected is happy with this.
We know that at secondary school, finding time outside of the timetable to undertake an activity like this can be difficult. Perhaps you can use form time to talk and discuss potential questions. If the family would rather more people were told at once, it might be something that could be explored within an assembly. Also, think about seeking opportunities within lessons to talk about brain tumours if this feels relevant, e.g. science, or Personal, Social and Health Education (PSHE).
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Emma, a primary school teacher who was diagnosed with a brain tumour at the age of 13, has put together some ideas for exploring brain tumours within lessons for children aged between five and 11 years old.
- You can use YouTube, various educational websites (e.g. BBC bitesize) and books to help your children understand what our brains are and how they work. Horrible Science: Bulging Brains by Nick Arnold and Brilliant Brain by Anna Claybourne are two really useful resources for children aged between 8 and 12 years old.
- You may want to spend some time exploring feelings. It may be worth considering the following questions: ‘If we feel unwell, who do we talk to and what do we do?’ ‘When is feeling unwell something to worry about?’ This can then lead on to talking through symptoms of a brain tumour, using lots of visual aids, e.g. posters or a body map.
- You may want to use the Jake animations to help explain and explore symptoms and treatments for a brain tumour.
Remember, there is no ‘right’ way to do this, and no matter how much you plan for the inevitable, sometimes emotions can get the better of children and teachers when discussing this difficult topic. Remember, it’s a topic that can be re-visited, giving children reassurance and the chance for you to seek support from other staff if needed.
See below a template letter that you could use to send home to parents of peers.
A child in your son/daughter’s class has recently been diagnosed with a brain tumour. At school, we’re going to be talking to your child about this and in particular, we’re going to run a session about what a brain tumour diagnosis might mean for the child affected and their peers. Your child will participate in this session.
Your child may talk about this at home and raise some questions. We’ll also be giving each child an activity sheet where they can write down any questions they may have – this is something they can bring home. If you have difficulty answering these questions, please come and speak to us at school. We’ll try to answer them but we can also contact the specialist nurse should further support be required.
Further information on many aspects of brain tumours can also be found at thebraintumourcharity.org. If you have questions, you can contact the Support Line on 0808 800 0004, or email: email@example.com
We’ve also created some cards for the child to use when they’re tired and/or don’t want to keep explaining to their peers how they’re feeling or why they’re behaving the way they are.
Download the “Things your friend with a brain tumour might want you to know” cards
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Jake explains brain tumours
Meet Jake! In this video he helps children to understand their brain tumour diagnosis in a comforting and reassuring way.